The power of untouchability
By Angel Livas | Published: 2025-10-31 17:57:00 | Source: Inc.com
Many of us have been conditioned to glorify more“More degrees, more skills, more certifications. But what if true power lies not in adding, but in stopping? In taking a moment to examine the beliefs, habits, and coping mechanisms that no longer serve you.”
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From the moment we take our first steps, life becomes a classroom. Some lessons are taught directly – by parents, teachers, or mentors. Other lessons are learned indirectly – through what we see, what we hear, and how others respond to our choices. Over time, these inputs become our “reality,” shaping our worldview, our sense of right and wrong, and the stories we tell ourselves about what is possible.
Those early lessons served me well for a while. They gave me the foundation to pursue an education, climb the career ladder, and build success as a founder, CEO, mother, and speaker. But somewhere in my 40s, I realized something profound: Some lessons that once helped me succeed were now holding me back.
Unlearning is about retraining the brain. It’s the realization that the beliefs, behaviors, and frameworks that once kept you safe—or even pushed you—may no longer serve the version of you you have become. This process is uncomfortable, but it is also the gateway to growth
Here are three questions that have helped guide me toward freedom, joy, and alignment:Â
1. Are the variants still applicable today?Â
The world looks very different than it did when many of us first learned “the rules.” Technology, business, and even social norms have evolved dramatically – and clinging to outdated lessons can quietly limit our growth.
Take the rise of artificial intelligence, for example. Many of us have learned that experience only comes from years of education or formal certification. While education remains valuable, the reality today is that anyone can use tools like ChatGPT and create business strategies, marketing campaigns, or even launch a podcast in days, not years.
If we don’t give up believing that Knowledge comes only from traditional systemsWe risk missing out on new ways to accelerate our impact
2. Are my indirect lessons actually valid?Â
Sometimes, what we internalize is not the truth, but the trauma
When my grandmother died, I remember seeing my mother crying in the car with mascara running down her face. When I was a child, I came to the wrong conclusion: If this is what love looks like, I don’t want it. For years, this subconscious belief kept me from fully opening up to love and intimacy
“It wasn’t until my 30s that I faced the truth: Love isn’t pain, it’s loss. By clinging to the child’s interpretation, I was protecting myself from the very thing I so desperately wanted. This realization forced me to unlearn what I’d learned, rewrite my definition of love, and give myself permission to receive it.”
3. What beliefs are holding me back right now?Â
This is where the transformation begins with honesty. Are you sticking to the mindset that sustains you? Safe but small? Do you cling to “the way things have always been done” while longing for something greater?
Undoing what we have learned is difficult because it requires accountability. It requires you to look in the mirror and acknowledge that the obstacles in your path may not just be external, but they may be internal, stemming from the lessons you have overcome.
But here’s the truth: The life you want, the relationships you crave, and the impact you’re destined to have won’t come from clinging to old patterns. It will emerge when you find the courage to let go, reframe your ideas, and embrace new ways of thinking
Visionaries are not defined by what they are He knows– They are defined by their desire development.Â
So ask yourself:Â
What do you need to get rid of today to reach your maximum strength?Â
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